Whether it’s in a podcast interview, conversation with a colleague, or when meeting a new client, one of the top questions I get asked is “How did I get started coaching?” I’d like to share that story with you.
Zodiac signs, Enneagram, Myers-Briggs (or 16 Personalities), The Four Tendencies … the list goes on.
As a culture, we’re currently wrapped up in the idea of understanding ourselves. Of figuring out how our brains work, why we make decisions the way we do, how our personalities are formed. And it’s interesting! But why do we do it? Why are we so preoccupied with the idea of categorizing our personalities?
Raise your hand if this thought has ever crossed your mind:
“Am I lazy?”
Because I’m not afraid to admit that it has definitely crossed mine. You see, I’m not internally motivated. I’m not one to set gym goals and achieve them on my own. I can’t promise myself to do something and always expect to keep that promise. But it doesn’t mean I’m lazy. In fact, thanks to Gretchen Rubin’s The Four Tendencies, I know now it just means I’m an Obliger.
It’s time to say something absolutely radical: You should run your business (and your life) based off your feelings.
The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte breaks that all down. Instead of focusing on building a life that we think is what we’re supposed to be doing, it urges us to follow our inner truth to decide what direction to move forward in — both in our personal and professional lives. LaPorte moves through issues such as fear, rejection, marketing, hard work, money, and criticism to help us build a future that we feel excited for.
Guess what? A large percentage of the thoughts that run through our brains are lies. Thoughts about ourselves (I'm not good enough, I need to lose weight, I'm clumsy/lazy/etc.), thoughts about other people (she's judging me, he is angry at me, they didn't invite me because they don't like me), and thoughts about the world overall (it's hard to make money, good grades are how you tell if you're smart).