At some point in my life, I learned the lesson that vulnerability was weakness.
Whether that was admitting failure, showing my emotions, needing to depend on another person…it all screamed weak to me.
Who has a list of things they want in life? Probably all of us, whether it’s a physical list or one we know in our head. We all want that one car, the home of our dreams, vacations across the globe, a rockin’ body, and a million dollars. We want more: more money, more time, more things, more days off, more, more, more.
But how often do we talk about the things that we want that we already have?
This is not a list of self care tips for taking care of you (although if it inspires you, bonus!). This is a list of how I have shifted, grown, overcome, and inspired myself to take care of me. This is a list of the best self care tips for Katrina Widener, life coach. And Katrina Widener, person. It’s one of the top questions I get: “How do you incorporate self care into your own routine when your job is to take care of others?”
And I want to be clear: While self care plays into balance, that isn’t the entire story. When I talk about balance, I mean building a life that you enjoy, that you don’t need to escape from. Where your day-to-day is aligned with who you are more than who you aren’t. Where enjoying a stiff drink after work or winding down with a hot bath aren’t the way you hide from the rest of your day. But how do you do it?
Zodiac signs, Enneagram, Myers-Briggs (or 16 Personalities), The Four Tendencies … the list goes on.
As a culture, we’re currently wrapped up in the idea of understanding ourselves. Of figuring out how our brains work, why we make decisions the way we do, how our personalities are formed. And it’s interesting! But why do we do it? Why are we so preoccupied with the idea of categorizing our personalities?